Some Stuff I wanted to Write While On a Layover
Hey my friends out there in the world. I know it's been about 2 weeks, but I'm still here, and I'm still working on SSL Reviews, and Journal Article Summaries, and all that. It's just way slower at the moment. I've been hoping for probably about 2 years now that things would begin to fall in such a way that I feel fine prioritizing writing in this blog, but things haven't. It will though eventually. It's kinda like life, ya know? You and the stuff around you changes. You change with it. You prioritize how you spend your time accordingly. Sometimes you don't spend a lot of time with your friends or call your family as much as you'd like. Sometimes you don't sleep enough. But...if things are important to you, you get back to it eventually. That's how I feel about this blog. I'll keep trying for a weekly post, but I'm not going to sweat it. I love this shit, and I'll move through all the posts I want to do as I can. One day, I'll get back to spending several hours a week on this. I look forward to that.
So, I have some time at the moment, but not enough to get into anything deep. I'm on a layover in an airport. My left eye is red as fuck (from lack of sleep and dryness, I think??), and I forgot to pack eyedrops. I just ate some really good dark chocolate, sea salt graham crackers. I just want to write something to get it up on the blog so people know I'm alive and still thinking about how to catch the Orgasm Equality Revolution on fire (maybe we could call it the clitolution? or the More-Clit-Less-Vag Revolution? or maybe the What-You-Think-You-Know-About-Sex-Is-So-Fucking-Wrong Revolution? - none of those are good. I'm open for more ideas. Write me).
Here's stuff I'm feeling good about right now
I'm halfway through a post about the book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life. Here's the basics. Highly recommend for those of us (I'm assuming every woman reading this) that has felt or does feel like their desire is problematic or broken. It's kind of like a self-help book for desire issues - great thought exercises to help you understand that you and your body are actually acting completely sensibly to the world around them. HOWEVER - it's complete shit when it comes to acknowledging that regular lack of orgasm during sexual interactions where the partner is not lacking orgasm can be a serious element to desire loss. Also, it's completely bonkers in (and purports to but does not have science to back up) how it discusses and defines orgasms (like, come on, sucking toes has never been shown to cause an actual physiological orgasm and saying so is irresponsible). Luckily, the orgasm part is not that much of the content and there really are important things in this book...just ignore anything she says about orgasm.
I have a lovely lady that reads the blog. We talk online and she's passionate about this topic. She's quite a researcher sending me awesome articles and excerpts, and she's helping to keep me motivated right now. Dude, she's awesome, and I so love that she wrote me. I LOVE hearing from readers anyway - like, it straight makes my week when it happens - and then the fact that she's so engaged and helpful and smart is just the best of icing on top.
I have never watched the Kardashians before. It just happened that way, but I've seen a shit ton recently and there's some solid masturbation mentions. I appreciate that.
I have a really good system for noting media that can be SSL Reviewed (discusses or depicts female orgasm, female masturbation or the clit) now. I consume a lot of media, and in the past sometimes I would see something and then I completely forget it or I don't catch all the things in a TV series. Doesn't happen anymore...which means I have a huge ass queue of movies and TV that I need to do, but I'd rather that than miss something.
I'm rereading Human Sexual Response. I talk about it and use it all the time, but it's been about 6 years since I read and took notes on it. I thought it would refresh me and also i might have a new perspective on stuff in it given things I've read and discussed since then. I'd like to do a book review on it after I'm done. I'll be on a lot of planes, so I think I'll have time to read it too.
Okay the planes boarding. Talk to you soon.